The point was made to me a few days ago that my opinions, needs and feelings are valid and just as important as anyone else's. It was suggested that the reason I can't seem to get better is because I don't express these needs to the folks who need to hear it. I found it more than a little ironic that the person telling me this is on my list of the top three people who take me for granted and don't appreciate me, but the point was still a valid one.
I am trying to open my mouth. It started with an email tonight....a small first step, but a step nonetheless. I know, in my head, in the confines of my cranium, that I am going to have to learn to say NO loudly and clearly. That I am going to have to respect myself before anyone else will step on that train with me. But, why, why, oh WHY is it so hard to do it???
~Jenn
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It's hard because as a child you were never allowed to say no. Your parents loved you so much and wanted to protect you so much, they probably never tolerated your testing limits for yourself. It's hard to develop healthy assertive attitudes when that's always been seen as "naughty child" behavior.
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Thank you, Judy. <3
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